Bond of twins..SubhanAllah

As a mother of five sons I am well aware that all sorts of "waters" will be tested along this journey... Meaning kids (not only mine) will try new things weather it is good or bad for them.

About a month ago my youngest set of twins, Badir and Salman were caught doing something. This something I will not state here cause it is not the point of my post. Nothing bad, something just about every kid will do at some point.

For all of their lives we have referred to them as "the babies". Not only me and my husband but everyone around us. Why? Don't really know. If my mom was babysitting and she was telling me the events that happened she would say Khalid, Mohammed and Abdulla ate but the babies wouldn't.. Something along those lines! Usually if one did something then the other one would do the same.. So I guess it was always easier for us to just say the babies. In reality it was as if Khalid, Mohammed and Abdulla (Even though Mohammed and Abdulla are also twins) always had their own single identity. But Badir and Salman was group as "the babies" therefore in a sense meaning one.

MOOOOOOOM the babies won't get out of our room!!!!!!!!! I hear this daily!

Well it wasn't until we moved here to Saudi that someone finally said to us "THEY AREN'T BABIES, they are 8 year old boys!" (Thanks Nzinghas for breaking my heart). Truthfully we never even thought of it that way. And "the babies" never thought anything bad by us calling them it until the same EXACT person told them "tell your mom your NOT babies". After that they no longer wanted that name..*SIGH*

So fast forward three years, which bring us to 3 weeks ago. They got caught..... According to my husband they should be punished till they are 25 years old. Finally, after much hard debates out of me, we agreed that they were on punishment till the first of Jan. In my husband's heat of their intended 14 year punishment came alot of hurt. Not only was the nickname "the babies" just a nickname but it is something that was in the heart... I guess he thought his babies would never test such waters...Or any waters for that matter... Finally after I got him to realize they are just being normal kids looking to fit in with everyone around them.. Being half Saudi and half American with limited Arabic skills takes a toll on a kid. So they will look to fit in with the peers around them, looking to be accepted. (of course, not to mention my husband was in the second grade when he got caught doing the exact same thing!) When they were caught Badir stated that he was the one doing wrong and not Salman..He stuck with this story.... Salman argued that fact and said NO he had also done wrong, only he did it one time.. He stuck with this story..

So now fast forward to 3 weeks later, which would bring us to last night.. I work shifts which means I don't have every weekend off like my husband does.. This is one of the weekends that I have off. So my husband looking for me and him to just sit and talk with out anyone else adding to our conversation decides, to let them now be off of punishment.. So in the process of this he starts talking about what had happened. Badir stuck to his story that Salman was NOT involved.. And finally Salman said Badir was telling the truth. It was only Badir!

Outside they go...Coming to check in together ... Back out side and finally Salman comes in alone to get some water.. I tell him to come sit down I want to talk to him.. I asked him why would he lie and say he did something bad and get punished for something he didn't do....
He looked at me like I was insane and that I should have already known why he would do something like that..(truthfully, I should have known) Then he told me that it wasn't fair.. What isn't fair I asked. He said that if he got to go and play and not Badir.. Why, I ask... Because Badir is my twin and we are one person so if he is in trouble I have to stay with him... Of course I should have known.. Badir will be the one to test the waters and Salman will be the one there with him through the punishments. And also take the blame for something he didn't do, just to ensure he gets to stay with him. I tried my hardest to explain to him that just because they were twins doesn't mean they are one person and Badir would have to deal with punishments on his own.. Just as he would have to do it on his own if he does something bad... He wasn't having that, to him they are still one person. MashAllah

SubhanAllah the bond of twins...Even if it isn't always fair...